Raiding and behaving

[Tamgir]

First of all I want to say that I am not looking to start a flame war. I am posting this because I raised this concern with one of the officers, who then asked me to post about these thoughts on the forum. I am not pointing fingers at anyone, nor has any names been mentioned here or to the officer I talked with.

Last night I was raiding. Raiding is fun, right? At least it should be.
I have raided with the Haven even before I joined it, and it has always been fun. That is why I joined.
But last night it wasn’t. The fun wasn’t ruined by the number of wipes we had, nor was it ruined by the fat repair bill. No, it was all the yelling at each other, and the name calling. When mistakes are made, that kind of behaviour won’t help. The one who made the mistake already feels bad about it. Making nasty comments about it or yelling at the person will only create an environment where people are so scared of making mistakes that they make them out of pure nervousness.
Things don’t always go as planned, and as long as people are involved there will be mistakes made every now and then.
It is not hard to be nice and work as a unity when things run smooth as a baby’s butt. The way people react when it does not says a lot more.
I don’t play WoW to listen to people yell at each other, or to be called nasty things. There is enough of that irl. I play to have fun with friends.
Sadly, last night didn’t feel very friendly at all.

 

[thatbloke]

Agreed.

There was an undertone of tension last night, as something that is supposedly "easy" kept getting missed by certain people.

Shit happens, things go wrong. We must accept that and just get our heads down and get on with it...

 

[Zooggy]

Ahey,

Yes, that does happens some times...

To be fair, I have no idea how they managed when the raids were 40-man big, but the fact is, whenever you have all those people together, group dynamics state that there is a very real possibility of going into a negative feedback loop.

Thankfully for us, that really doesn't happen all that often in Haven raids.

Even with all the tension, though, I have to say that last night, I had one of the best times ever, even when it didn't look like Solarian was going to go down.

On the other hand, I thoroughly acknowledge that, last night, some things were said that didn't need to be said. But like you said, mistakes happen. Mistakes happen as part of raid play, and mistakes happen with regard to reactions to other mistakes.

I guess what I'm saying is that we could all use a little bit more zen.

Speaking as an officer, I'll tell you guys this: we've been working to identify the main sources of strain, and we will continue to work to smooth those over. Be assured that we take the community side of things very seriously.

Lastly, Tamgir, I'd like to thank you for your writeup. It was well thought out and balanced, and I thoroughly appreciate it.

Cheers,
J.